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		<title>Living with Post Traumatic Stress Disorder</title>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 21 May 2015 09:00:44 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator><![CDATA[Stephanie Volkert]]></dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[When most people hear “PTSD,” they envision war veterans, assault victims, and survivors from a catastrophic accident. Those are the people who make the news, the people that are used online as click-bait. They are attractions in a world of people who experience trauma by proxy. I will not be one of those people, but I will tell what I can comfortably share of my story. PTSD, like any other mental illness, has it&#8217;s share of naysayers and unbelievers. The thing is though, the only ingredient needed for developing PTSD is trauma. Everyone responds to traumatic events in different ways. Your “no big deal” could be my traumatic event, and vice versa. There&#8217;s no defining criteria for what makes a traumatic event so, well, traumatic. Let&#8217;s get this straight: If I say it was traumatic, it was. There are no “buts” or caveats. It is solely my decision, based on how I was effected. It is not about you. It never was, and it never will be. PTSD, like any other mental illness, has it&#8217;s share of naysayers and unbelievers. My own PTSD manifested due to childhood abandonment, emotional neglect, immersion in the drug culture when I was too young to have a say in where I went and with whom, and acts I witnessed that are so staggeringly awful that I refuse to speak of them anymore. I became a stereotype; a statistic. Girl from broken home marries abusive man. It&#8217;s a tired, ancient story that has played out over centuries, in homes the world over, no matter race, culture, social status, or intelligence. Perhaps I could have healed sooner if I hadn&#8217;t married my ex. Perhaps without the years of emotional sabotage he inflicted, I would not be as scarred and scared as I am today. The past cannot be changed though, and no one is immune to what life throws at them. My PTSD manifests itself in a way that looks outwardly similar to Borderline Personality Disorder. I hurt myself; I hit myself about the head with closed fists because I feel deep down that I deserve it. I punish myself for having feelings, because those were not allowed, unless they were feelings that made someone else feel good. My own negative feelings had consequences that were, to say the least, unpleasant. I can go from calm and collected to screaming with fear-parading-as-rage in less than one second. That is not an exaggeration. I never learned to self soothe. I never learned to regulate painful emotions. Every hurt feeling is an avalanche barreling towards me and I am terrified. I can go from calm and collected to screaming with fear-parading-as-rage in less than one second. That is not an exaggeration. I trust no one. Not even myself. I have not personally known a man, with the exception of two, who did not betray their partner. The women in my life have not had a better track record. I was dragged along through the twisted dramas of affair after affair. I was there the night my uncle found his wife in bed with another man and burned every article of clothing she owned right there in their front yard. I stood in my grandma&#8217;s kitchen as my aunt and her lover, her in just a robe and him in just boxers, pleaded for a car and a credit card to escape the 160+ miles to El Paso. The only reason the police weren&#8217;t involved is because we all lived so far out of town that there were no neighbors or passers-by to witness the flames. There was no one to keep me sheltered from The Bad Stuff that night, nor countless other nights. The adults would try to tell me half-hearted lies so that I wouldn&#8217;t ask questions, but I saw right through them. Kids are a lot smarter than you think. There are days I am absolutely convinced that my existence is a mistake. Surely the universe has sent me a message: “You weren&#8217;t suppose to be here, and now look at the havoc you have caused. You need to rectify this.” I have felt suicidal since I was 15. The only reason I am still alive is my absolute stubbornness to keep going, and my daughter. I would never intentionally hurt her, so no matter how I feel, I put her first. I put one foot forward, hour after hour, and do my best to be the kind of parent I should have had. There are days I am absolutely convinced that my existence is a mistake. Surely the universe has sent me a message: “You weren&#8217;t suppose to be here, and now look at the havoc you have caused. You need to rectify this.” I live with PTSD every second of every day. It colors my world a timorous gray. It touches every corner of my mind like ants swarming on a carcass. I&#8217;ve always gravitated towards hobbies and interests that other people find repulsive and frightening, like insects and reptiles, or which can be achieved solo, like photography and writing. It&#8217;s been questioned if I chose hobbies that required no one else, so that I would not have to interact with others. I suppose that&#8217;s partially right; I&#8217;ve always been a complex mixture of intensely personable and comfortably introverted. I was never going to be a cheerleader anyway. This kind of PTSD takes years to recover from, because it took 29 years to develop it. I am 33 now. I&#8217;m remarried, in a drastically different environment in so many ways, and I do see improvement. My husband sees improvement. I rejected medication for so long, because I am very sensitive to anything synthetic, but I now take 50mg of Zoloft each day. I don&#8217;t like that I feel dulled, I don&#8217;t like that my libido has tanked, but I do appreciate the edge it takes off of my anger and anxiety. I have gained much-needed weight because I am no longer too anxious to eat, and I have insomnia less often. I rejected medication for so long, because I am very sensitive to anything synthetic&#8230; I don&#8217;t like that I feel dulled&#8230; but I do appreciate the edge it takes off of my anger and anxiety. My friends and family find me more tolerable, which is conflicting for me. On one hand, I don&#8217;t want to have to chemically alter myself in order to be loved. I resent it. I resent them for it. On the other hand, I am terrified of abandonment so stopping the medication feels like voluntarily drowning. I can put myself in quite the quagmire sometimes. Every person with a mental illness has their own version of it. There is no right or wrong way to be sick. There is no right or wrong way to be traumatized. Next time you are confronted with someone else&#8217;s mental illness, just remember: It is not your story, so just let them tell it, and resist the urge to critique it.]]></description>
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		<title>Pregnancy and Anxiety</title>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 02 Apr 2015 22:00:00 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator><![CDATA[Anonymous WIRL]]></dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[&#160; I feel like these two things do not go well together. Anybody else? Having anxiety is one thing, and being pregnant is another. But having both&#8230;is a whole new ball game. I could go on and on, but someone who understands/has/deals with someone with anxiety knows how awful and traumatic and debilitating it can be. Now if you&#8217;ve ever been pregnant WITH anxiety you&#8217;ll understand everything I say in this blog. Pregnant women tend to carry a little bit of anxious tendencies to begin with. Worried and wondering about child birth, starting or adding to their family, picking a pediatrician and so on. But let me tell you a little bit about what a pregnant woman with pretty bad anxiety lives like. I am pregnant, but not far along (which is why this post is anonymous ). When I&#8217;m not pregnant I worry about what I&#8217;m going to make for dinner, or what I&#8217;m going to dress our toddler in for the day, or having enough time before nap time to get all the errands fitted in. Those are common everyday stresses for me. Now that I&#8217;m pregnant, it&#8217;s times a hundred. And keep in mind that this is NOT my first pregnancy! When you find out you&#8217;re pregnant and you call your doctor to make an appointment, and they schedule it 2 weeks out&#8230;that gives me anxiety. Worrying what if something happens before that?? Don&#8217;t they know that I&#8217;m an anxiety ridden person that needs answers RIGHT NOW?!? I neeeeed to know that everything&#8217;s ok. When they have my chart/information in front of them and still offer me a 2pm appointment = ANXIETY! Don&#8217;t they know I have a 2 year old that needs to nap, isn&#8217;t that an average nap time?! Thinking about afterwards, coming home with a newborn and a toddler, gives me anxiety. It makes me wonder if I can do it all. If I will be enough for two little dependent human beings. How will I run all of the errands with not just 1, but 2 kids now?!? I am very stubborn and refuse help at any circumstance and insist that I can &#8216;do it all!!&#8217; (I am superwoman too if I didn&#8217;t mention that already ). Thinking about all the people that will want to stop and visit and hold my new precious little bundle, gives me severe anxiety!! (I know that I&#8217;m not due for a while still, but this is stuff that my anxiety will not let me subdue). I immediately think about all the sickness that&#8217;s been going around, colds and coughs and runny noses, pneumonia, and stomach viruses, and these people are going to want to TOUCH MY KID! Aghhhhhh!!! I may be a second-time mommy, but I bet my anxiety would fool anyone to believing it was my first time. Thinking about everyone wanting to sit and stay for hours and just holding my baby just throws me into a whole new dimension of nuts!! Haha  I want to sit and hold him/her! I am damn proud of my little family and want us to have our time together, letting my little one get to know my new littlest one. When people tell me, &#8230;it&#8217;s ok, no need to get all worked up!! I wanna scream  I read an article this morning about dealing with a person with anxiety and a list of things to consider/understand and I will link it down below. Mental Illness is not something that can just be &#8220;dropped&#8221; because it&#8217;s inconvenient. It is something that I not only live with, but so does everyone around me. It&#8217;s something that my husband tries very hard to understand and he has been so patient in working with me and my &#8220;issues&#8221;, if you will. I know someone may read this and think this girl needs medicated!! And maybe I do need some kind of therapy of some sort, but me dealing with it in my own way is part of the quest for me. I need to be able to conquer each and every task, every single day, in my own way and on my own time. This is where the stubbornness comes in again. Am I the only person who goes through this?!? Sometimes I feel like that&#8217;s the case, but I know it&#8217;s not. For more advice/tips on how to treat and understand anxiety please read the link below. It fit almost every one of my needs to a T. And someone that you know that may have anxiety would be so grateful for your compassion.]]></description>
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